By Lisa Baker
I know…I know…you hear “hospice” and think the end. Mom has been on hospice before just 3 or 4 months ago. Then she seemed to get better and graduated from hospice. Now we are looking at hospice again.
Hospice does more than just help as a loved one gets close to passing away. They can help with medication, supplies for incontinence, and care of skin while using these supplies including adult pull ups, diapers, skin care lotion, and creams to help with skin break down.
They also can help with bathing and dressing your loved one as well as walkers or wheelchairs. Their care doesn’t stop with the patient: they also help family members. They provide pastoral care and many resources for the family because you are all going through this together.
It takes very special people to be involved with hospice care including nurses, nursing assistants, and even doctors. Hospice does not always mean the end.
During this challenging time, I also lost a very dear friend to cancer. I have worked with her for 16 years. We used to get to work very early and have breakfast together and talk about our families. We celebrated our joys and comforted each other during especially trying times. I can’t even begin to express the importance of our friendship. I also find it hard to express how much she will be missed.
I know you must be thinking, “what does she have to do with dementia?” You are right; she has nothing to do with dementia. Honestly, she and I both started having issues in our lives almost at the same time. For her it was cancer, and for me it was my parents’ dementia. It was very hard for us to physically be there for each other, but we stayed in touch. We would text and send cards to each other. We both knew that if it weren’t for our hardships, we would indeed be there for each other. I’ll miss her so very much here on Earth, but I have faith that we will one day see each other again.
We are thankful for each day we get with our loved ones and pray that we will have more time for more memories. Tell your family and friends you love them. Give as many hugs as you can. Forgive easily. For no one is promised tomorrow.
**This post was written on March 21. On March 24, my mother passed away and is free from dementia.