Finding the right solution

By Lisa Baker

Here we are the week before Christmas and I’m writing yet another blog for December.

Mom and Dad have been together for two weeks at the same facility sharing a room.

Things seem ok at first.  But then they start arguing.  She feels that she must correct him and he is far enough along in his dementia that he doesn’t remember exactly the way things were.  He gets very agitated the more she corrects him.  So right now I’m not sure how this will end.  The facility wants us to give it a little more time, so that’s what we are doing.

pictureExcept for the phone call to let me know Dad put his fist through a double pane glass window.  No, he did not get hurt.  Seems he had just enough presence of mind to wrap the curtain around his hand before hitting the glass.  We now will be replacing this lovely window.

A day or two later I get another phone call.  Dad is acting very unlike his normal self.  Muttering, not really talking.  Had not slept for 48 hours.  Not taking his medicine.

The nurse was calling to let me know that she was sending him to the ER.  We later find out that he does have a UTI.  Word to the wise here.  Dementia patients can and will have very strong reactions to a UTI from being very unresponsive to bouncing off the walls.

ER sent Dad back to his facility.  Where he then tries to overturn any furniture that he is able to move.  The nurse sends him back to ER where they now give him something to make him sleep and bring him back to his facility.

He slept all day and most of the early evening.

It was decided that at least for that night it would be best for Mom to sleep in another room.  The next morning Dad is still just mumbling, not talking and will not take his medicine.  But he is also a bit on the combative side, even hitting Mom.  This time he was admitted into the hospital and will be there at least a few days.  They will be doing other test just to rule out other possibilities such as other infections.

Mom misses him and begs to go see him.  However, at this point he isn’t even aware of where he is.  So no visits right now, they would only upset her even more.

We are hoping that he will be back with her in a few days and that his temperament will improve.  If not, it is yet again very possible that we may have to move Mom to another room or even another facility.  Above all we want them both to be safe.

Here’s hoping the New Year will bring us and all of you much peace and happiness.

1 thought on “Finding the right solution

  1. So sorry you are going through this. It is very difficult but God is in control and we pray for them and for you. Hope they can stay together but you must do what is best for each of them.

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