By: Jeanne Reynolds
My husband and I just celebrated our 24th anniversary. Our wedding was traditional: I wore white, the processional was Pachelbel’s Canon in D, and the scripture was I Corinthians 13.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
I’ve been to many weddings where those verses were read. They’re always beautiful, but perhaps even more meaningful now than they were 24 years ago. I think it takes awhile to realize how true, how important and how aspirational they really are.
It’s not as easy as it sounds to live up to these verses. Keep no record of wrongs? How many of us haven’t sighed in exasperation because we’re apparently the only one who can see the kitchen trash can needs to be emptied — again? Does not dishonor others? Ever heard someone making the person supposedly dearest in the world to him or her the butt of a joke? Does not delight in evil? Has a self-satisfied “I told you that wouldn’t work” ever crossed your lips?
My husband isn’t perfect, but he does a much better job of living these words than I do. I’m going to keep trying, and trust he isn’t keeping record of my wrongs.
Also, here are few modern translations I’ll add from our marriage:
- Love is rooting for someone else’s birdie putt to drop even if it means you’ll lose the hole.
- Love is spending time with each other’s sometimes-crazy families without complaining.
- Love is saying thank you for every meal prepared, even the less-than-stellar offerings.
- Love is commenting — or not, depending — on a new haircut.
- Love is not commenting on the recently snugger fit of a favorite old pair of jeans.
- Love is hours of yard work side by side when the temperature is exceeded only by the humidity.
- Love is silently buying a replacement when someone accidentally throws away a piece of the lawnmower.
- Love is letting someone else have the last Klondike Bar.
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”