Accusation: Trying to be Cute

By: Chaunte McClure

ChaunteI’m looking forward to the dog days of summer ending. Whew! It’s been HOT!

However, I’m not looking forward to a comment I often hear in the winter: “You’re trying to be cute.” (Insert emoji with rolling eyes.)

I’m not much of a hat-wearer, so during the winter, you’ll most likely not see me with my head covered. But it has nothing to do with being cute. I own four hats – a winter hat, a floppy hat, a sun hat, and one that sort of looks like an Ascot cap. Two of the four I’ve never worn although I’ve owned one of them for at least four years. Don’t judge me; I had a vision for it when I bought it. 🙂 I’ll put on one of the others on my day off when I have to run an errand and curling my hair is not an option.

When winter finally arrives in South Carolina, I wear coats, but I don’t like driving in one, especially if I’m also wearing a sweater. I don’t like shopping in coat. It just gets too, uh, uncomfortable. When I get into my car, I usually take my coat off when the car is warm or before I head to my destination. Well, upon arrival, if I’m only going inside a building – let’s say the church on Sunday, or the office – for a few hours, I won’t wear my coat inside. When someone observes that I don’t have on an outer garment as I make my way towards a door, that’s when I hear it. Following a brief lesson on how I should dress for the weather, some variation of trying to be cute follows.

Not that it should matter to anyone, but when it’s cold, I dress in layers. Camisoles, leggings and long-sleeved Tees are my winter must-haves. I’m usually warmer than I look.

At my previous job I parked in a garage and almost never wore my coat just to get on the elevator to head to my office where I kept my portable heater going, sometimes even in the summer. Low and behold, someone, an older woman, noticed me not wearing a coat as I made my way to my office one morning. Guess what she said? (Insert emoji with rolling eyes, again.) I’m sure you’ve guessed it.

I’m not trying to be cute, I just want to be comfortable. Like you, I have personal preferences for decisions I make and actions I take. Why does it have to be about being cute?

Now, often when I’m wearing heels, yes, I’m being cute. Nowadays that’s usually only on Sundays, but comfort trumps cute within an hour or two and I will lower my height by one to two inches and slide into a pair of flats whether they match or not. Ladies, you know what I’m saying. You know you keep a pair of flats in your trunk or on the backseat floorboard. And oh do I suffer when I leave those ballet flats at home.

What do you do that prompts someone to accuse you of trying to be cute?

In case you missed my previous post, be sure to check out Dress to Impress Whom?

2 thoughts on “Accusation: Trying to be Cute

  1. I’m always being accused of tryna be CUTE especially when I post my selfies #selfiequeen and I too hate lugging around a coat and I rarely wear a hat during the winter, so I know the feeling…my grandmother always said, when you are asked or being accused of trying to be CUTE then that person must think that you are CUTE😀😀😀😀 so my answer is….yes, I’m even cuter with my coat n hat/heels😙😙😙😙

  2. This sentiment has followed me all the days of my life. But I’m accused of “Thinking She Cute”. And the truth of the matter is… YES SHE DOES. All women need to tap into their internal and external beauty and self worth and nurture it. Don’t be mad at me because I have and continue to.

    With maturity and wisdom, I’ve come to realize that people who express thoughts (behind my back no doubt) usually are speaking from a place of resentment, jealousy, envy AND low self esteem.

    “Not My Problem”.

    I’ve grown to excepted it as a form of flattery and complement (though I’m sure that is not the intention).

    For at the end of the day, I’m going to be me and respect others for what they bring to the table (or not).

    TAKE IT OR LEAVE!!

    ksmith

    #workonself
    #celebrateyourself

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