What Do the Lonely Do?

By: Chaunte McClure

It’s deemed the most wonderful time of the year, with the kids jingle belling and everyone telling you be of good cheer. But what do the lonely do at Christmas? I know, the holiday season has passed, but there are women who suffer from loneliness this time of year heart-ribbonbecause they don’t have a mate, yet they want one.

Many single women (and probably men too) don’t like to be alone on Christmas or ring in the New Year solo. I’m sure it doesn’t help when they have to scroll through Facebook or
Instagram images of others celebrating with the one they love. And the icing on the cake, or the insult to injury, is probably seeing the relationship status changes from single to engaged. Yep, I saw quite a few engagement announcements on my timeline last week.

Those lonely feelings will subside for a few weeks, but with Valentine’s Day right around the corner, they’ll return. I remember those days of wishing I had someone, hoping he’d come along soon, wondering when he’d come, and imagining what he’d be like. I think it’s normal, unless something was wrong with me that I wasn’t aware of at that time. (Please, don’t say it aloud if you think so.)

So what do the lonely do at Christmas, New Year’s, and Valentine’s Day? My advice: Love and enjoy yourself and the people you currently have in your life. I know, easier said than done, but there is no need to feel sorry for yourself, become jealous of others’ relationships or subconsciously get mad because you don’t have one.

I’m certainly no expert on this. I’m just reflecting on what it was like for me, and sharing my thoughts and experiences in hopes of helping you.

One day your status may change. While you wait, prepare for that lucky guy.

Let me hear from you. Are you single? Not dating anyone? Lonely? What do you do during the holidays?

By the way, Happy New Year!

2 thoughts on “What Do the Lonely Do?

  1. I would suggest that this isn’t an exclusive feeling for single women. I know many men who have reached a certain age and felt the rest of their empty lives suddenly swimming before their eyes.

  2. This post really hit home for me. For some reason, although this was not my first holiday season as a single adult female, it was the hardest. I think that I have thought that every year would be “the year” during which I would have someone to share Christmas and New Year’s Eve; yet, the 2015 holiday season rolled right along with me as single as I had been the preceding 6. I know that I’m fortunate to have spent several years happily married, which is more than what some have been able to experience; however, it seems to make it worse because I do truly know what I’m missing. I think, too, that the older my children get, the less they need or rely on me and I know that their time at home is limited and I begin seeing myself as the crazy cat lady in years to come . . .

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