By: Crissie Miller Kirby
As I begin to write this post, it is about 6:30 a.m. on Saturday, December 31, 2011; the last day of the year. Some parts of the world have already “rung in” 2012. I could sit here and ponder all of 2011’s events; the good, the bad, and the downright ugly. Or, I can look forward to what 2012 will bring. I’m guilty enough the other days of the year of doing the former, so I choose, right now, to focus on the latter. With that, though, comes . . . (insert drum roll) . . . New Year’s Resolutions! Do you make them? Do you keep them? Are they a lesson in torture or do they become a symbol of triumph?
The dreaded resolutions, according to some sources, date back as far as 153 B.C. In almost every country, there is some resolution, some tradition, that follows the old adage, of “out with the old, in with the new.” It is a time of new beginnings; a time to start over; a time for change. Even the Bible tells us in Ecclesiastes that:
To everything there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate;
a time of war, and a time of peace.
So, is 2012 your time to keep your old habits or start new ones?
For me, I pray, that it will be a time of renewal. A time to make, and keep, new habits. I’m going to go out on a limb here and expose myself a little with my resolutions:
1) Being Healthier – I refuse to say that I want to lose weight. It’s so cliché anymore – everyone wants to lose weight at the beginning of a new year. Following so closely on the heels of Thanksgiving and Christmas, we ALL probably need to cut back on what we have been eating. So, I just want to try and lead a healthier lifestyle: Eat a little less, eat a little better, and exercise. I am thankful that, for Christmas, my parents got me just what I asked for: a one year membership to a gym. Now, money, can no longer be my excuse for not exercising. Now, I just have to make the time to go and become healthier.
2) Be More Organized – A self-proclaimed pack-rat, I sometimes feel as if the next episode of the show Hoarders is going to be filmed at my house. I keep everything! I develop strong attachments to items that then keep me from getting rid of it. I impress memories upon items, and no one wants to lose their memories. That precious little notebook inscribed with some couple’s names and wedding date; the scribbles that my 6-year-old did when he was 2; paperwork from the hospital when my children were born; even a luggage receipt from my own, now dissolved, marriage. WHAT? WHY? When I come across these items, strong memories are conjured up and I reminisce, but I also waste time. I get frustrated with the clutter, myself, my children, and my lack of energy (see resolution #1).
3) Stop Being Ashamed Of My Failed Marriage – For almost three years, I’ve struggled with the, self-imposed, shame of a marriage that was struggling and then completely crumbled. I have withdrawn from not only my real family, but also my church family. In 2012, I’m resolving to do better. Stop being ashamed, and take back my life.
Whoa! Hold up. Maybe I need to rephrase. Saying that I need to take back my life may be a misstatement. I’ve always struggled with my weight and exercise has never been a strong suit of mine. And, as my parents will tell you, I have always been a pack rat. So, my resolutions are really about life style changes. Will they become a symbol of triumph for me? Or will it all be a tortuous lesson at which I will fail? This is where I ask all of you to help me. Help keep me accountable. Email me. Facebook me. Ask me how many times I have worked out. Ask me if my kitchen table is cleaned off. Ask me about church events. Everyone says that the most successful people are those who have someone who keeps them accountable. And, truthfully, as much as I hate to admit it, I can’t, and probably won’t, do it by myself.
What resolutions have you made for this new year? Do you have a “plan of action” for keeping them?